How to Ask Your Same-Sex Partner to Move in With You

Asking your partner to move in with you can be scary, because botching the job could cause the relationship to suffer. Here's how to ask your partner to move in with you without causing him or her to move on and out of your life.

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Step1
Decide how serious the relationship is - and make sure it's time to take this big step. If it's too soon, your partner may be scared away.


Step2
Drop some hints that you're considering asking the big question, and see how your partner responds. You might try something like: "It seems like I'm always here. I'm not sure why I'm paying rent at my place." See what happens.


Step3
Arrange to spend some days - not just nights - with your partner in your house and see how well you get along. Maybe you aren't even compatible in large doses.


Step4
Consider going on a date to the place where you met your partner or had your first date the day you decide to ask him or her to move in with you. If you haven't been there in a while, your partner just may get the hint that something important is coming.


Step5
Try to make the event of asking the question special. Remember, in many ways it's like asking someone to marry you.


Step6
Stay away from phrases like "I think we should" and say things like, "Would you...?" Focus on making your partner comfortable.


Step7
Make it clear that you don't intend for the move to happen immediately and that you'll allow time to make sure financial and other arrangements are set up in advance.


Step8
Decide what you'll say if your partner says no. Try to reaffirm your commitment to the person even if he or she is not ready for this step.


Step9
Decide what you'll say if your partner would rather have you move in with him or her, instead of moving into your place. You'll need an answer ready.


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