Whether it is your brother's wife, or your daughter's husband, accepting someone into your family takes work. No matter how you feel about the new addition, you must make an effort to accept your family member's spouse and find ways to involve them in your family affairs.
Step1
Have a positive attitude. A positive attitude is contagious, and it puts people at ease.
Step2
Consider their feelings. It is intimidating to be the new person, so make sure you explain family traditions, personal jokes and encourage them to share things with you and your family.
Step3
Find humor in awkward situations. Everyone says or does the wrong thing once in a while, so ease the tension by making a tasteful joke or offering up a story where you were the one who was out of place.
Step4
Engage your new family member in conversation. Include them in family conversations, but also talk to them individually.
Step5
Listen to their likes and dislikes. Conversations about personal feelings are the best way to get to know someone.
Step6
Schedule activities that you can enjoy together. Invite them to the pool, or meet for lunch at their favorite restaurant.
Step7
Be patient. It takes time to create a relaxed atmosphere with a new family member, so give them time to adjust.
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Saturday, August 23, 2008
How to Ask a Girl To Prom
Asking a girl to prom can be a stressful event for a teenage boy. However, if you plan out the whole process in advance, you can avoid a lot of the stress associated with asking a girl to prom. Do not let yourself get too worried or worked up about searching for a date. The worst that can happen is she will say no. And if she does, move on--there are plenty of other fish in the sea.
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Step1
Select the girl you wish to ask to prom. The girl should be someone you know and are friendly with. If you've been on a date with her before, that makes her an even better candidate. However, even if you are just friends, you can still ask her to prom.
Step2
Find out whether she is going with someone else. If you aren't comfortable asking the girl directly, ask a couple of her friends whether they know if the girl in question is attending prom with anybody yet. If she isn't, that's a green light to proceed.
Step3
Talk to the girl who you decided to ask to the prom. Relax and be yourself. Broach the subject of the prom and gauge her reaction. If she seems open to the idea of going but doesn't mention a date, that's a clear signal that you can prepare to ask her to the prom. Even if she doesn't sound too excited about the prom, you can still plan on asking her. Her hesitancy might be associated with a lack of a date for the prom.
Step4
Ask the girl to the prom in an informal setting. You don't have to be on a special date to ask her. However, it's best to ask in person rather than over the phone. Once you have decided to ask her, just do it and get it over with. Ask her simply and directly. Whatever her answer, the stress will be over.
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Step1
Select the girl you wish to ask to prom. The girl should be someone you know and are friendly with. If you've been on a date with her before, that makes her an even better candidate. However, even if you are just friends, you can still ask her to prom.
Step2
Find out whether she is going with someone else. If you aren't comfortable asking the girl directly, ask a couple of her friends whether they know if the girl in question is attending prom with anybody yet. If she isn't, that's a green light to proceed.
Step3
Talk to the girl who you decided to ask to the prom. Relax and be yourself. Broach the subject of the prom and gauge her reaction. If she seems open to the idea of going but doesn't mention a date, that's a clear signal that you can prepare to ask her to the prom. Even if she doesn't sound too excited about the prom, you can still plan on asking her. Her hesitancy might be associated with a lack of a date for the prom.
Step4
Ask the girl to the prom in an informal setting. You don't have to be on a special date to ask her. However, it's best to ask in person rather than over the phone. Once you have decided to ask her, just do it and get it over with. Ask her simply and directly. Whatever her answer, the stress will be over.
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Sunday, August 17, 2008
How to Ask a Girl Out on a Date
Asking a girl out on a date is one of the hardest things in the world to do for some men, yet it s also one of the things they want to do most. We ll help you relax and take the process one step at a time so that it s more fun (the way it should be) and less of a chore.
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Step1
Introduce yourself or compliment her. There s no reason to use cheesy lines, as most girls will see through them and immediately dismiss you. If you think a woman is pretty, compliment her. If she says something that catches your ear, mention it. Breaking the ice is as easy as letting her know what caught your attention.
Step2
Ask for the girl s telephone number or email address and let her know you'd like to see her again sometime. At this point, you can even set up the date by asking her to accompany you to an event to which you have been invited.
Step3
Call the woman when you have a definite plan and time for the date. Reintroduce yourself and engage in a little conversation before extending the invitation.
Step4
Bring her into the date decision-making process. If you can get her to reveal a movie she d like to see, you can suggest that as the focus of your date. Movies work well because they don t require much conversation, so there are fewer awkward pauses during the date.
Step5
If she says no, ask if there is a scheduling conflict or if she is simply not interested in dating you. Being direct is necessary to avoid having her prolong a charade of interest. Of course, there is no guarantee that being direct will result in a truthful response, but it's better than fudging the issue.
Step6
Be punctual, polite, and most important, be yourself.
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Step1
Introduce yourself or compliment her. There s no reason to use cheesy lines, as most girls will see through them and immediately dismiss you. If you think a woman is pretty, compliment her. If she says something that catches your ear, mention it. Breaking the ice is as easy as letting her know what caught your attention.
Step2
Ask for the girl s telephone number or email address and let her know you'd like to see her again sometime. At this point, you can even set up the date by asking her to accompany you to an event to which you have been invited.
Step3
Call the woman when you have a definite plan and time for the date. Reintroduce yourself and engage in a little conversation before extending the invitation.
Step4
Bring her into the date decision-making process. If you can get her to reveal a movie she d like to see, you can suggest that as the focus of your date. Movies work well because they don t require much conversation, so there are fewer awkward pauses during the date.
Step5
If she says no, ask if there is a scheduling conflict or if she is simply not interested in dating you. Being direct is necessary to avoid having her prolong a charade of interest. Of course, there is no guarantee that being direct will result in a truthful response, but it's better than fudging the issue.
Step6
Be punctual, polite, and most important, be yourself.
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Thursday, August 14, 2008
How to Ask Your Same-Sex Partner to Move in With You
Asking your partner to move in with you can be scary, because botching the job could cause the relationship to suffer. Here's how to ask your partner to move in with you without causing him or her to move on and out of your life.
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Step1
Decide how serious the relationship is - and make sure it's time to take this big step. If it's too soon, your partner may be scared away.
Step2
Drop some hints that you're considering asking the big question, and see how your partner responds. You might try something like: "It seems like I'm always here. I'm not sure why I'm paying rent at my place." See what happens.
Step3
Arrange to spend some days - not just nights - with your partner in your house and see how well you get along. Maybe you aren't even compatible in large doses.
Step4
Consider going on a date to the place where you met your partner or had your first date the day you decide to ask him or her to move in with you. If you haven't been there in a while, your partner just may get the hint that something important is coming.
Step5
Try to make the event of asking the question special. Remember, in many ways it's like asking someone to marry you.
Step6
Stay away from phrases like "I think we should" and say things like, "Would you...?" Focus on making your partner comfortable.
Step7
Make it clear that you don't intend for the move to happen immediately and that you'll allow time to make sure financial and other arrangements are set up in advance.
Step8
Decide what you'll say if your partner says no. Try to reaffirm your commitment to the person even if he or she is not ready for this step.
Step9
Decide what you'll say if your partner would rather have you move in with him or her, instead of moving into your place. You'll need an answer ready.
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Step1
Decide how serious the relationship is - and make sure it's time to take this big step. If it's too soon, your partner may be scared away.
Step2
Drop some hints that you're considering asking the big question, and see how your partner responds. You might try something like: "It seems like I'm always here. I'm not sure why I'm paying rent at my place." See what happens.
Step3
Arrange to spend some days - not just nights - with your partner in your house and see how well you get along. Maybe you aren't even compatible in large doses.
Step4
Consider going on a date to the place where you met your partner or had your first date the day you decide to ask him or her to move in with you. If you haven't been there in a while, your partner just may get the hint that something important is coming.
Step5
Try to make the event of asking the question special. Remember, in many ways it's like asking someone to marry you.
Step6
Stay away from phrases like "I think we should" and say things like, "Would you...?" Focus on making your partner comfortable.
Step7
Make it clear that you don't intend for the move to happen immediately and that you'll allow time to make sure financial and other arrangements are set up in advance.
Step8
Decide what you'll say if your partner says no. Try to reaffirm your commitment to the person even if he or she is not ready for this step.
Step9
Decide what you'll say if your partner would rather have you move in with him or her, instead of moving into your place. You'll need an answer ready.
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Tuesday, August 12, 2008
How to Arrange Quality Child Care
Congratulations! You're expecting a new bundle of joy. Have you got your child care set up yet? Believe it or not, some programs are so popular that parents put their child on a waiting list at conception. Good-quality child care is available in most areas if you're willing to look for it, and there are many options for parents to choose from. Use this primer to find a great fit for your child and your family.
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Step1
Decide when you want to put your child in care. Some parents prefer to keep their kids at home as long as possible and don't enroll them in a program until they are around three years of age. Other parents choose to put their children in a child-care setting much earlier. Still others prefer mixing time at home with time in care. Lifestyle and your child's personality will play a role in this decision--social, active children benefit greatly from the stimulation and activity offered in a structured group environment.
Step2
Ask friends with children, other families and mothers' group members for recommendations. Find out what their experiences have been like. Listen to what excites them and see if your gut tells you the same things would work well for your child. You can also search local parenting Web sites or child-care referral centers, or go to ChildCareAware.org for advice.
Step3
Consider the available options and decide which type of child care best meets your needs.
Home-based care
Step1
Check out family day care in your area. Typically, one licensed adult cares for up to six children in his or her home (the number is determined by state law). These situations tend to offer the most flexibility in scheduling, but you'll need a backup if the care provider becomes ill. Family day care is often a good opportunity to expose your child to another language.
Step2
Give your child the next best thing to Mom or Dad with a nanny. If that's too pricey, sharing a nanny and splitting the cost with one or two other families can make it affordable. Your child will get one-on-one loving care and one or two playmates.
Centers and preschools
Step1
Draw up a short list of potential care providers and contact them. Ask for brochures or visit their Web sites. Find out if there is space available when you need to enroll or if there is a waiting list. Make appointments to visit providers and show up promptly.
Step2
Review the programs offered by various providers in your area. You'll find ones that offer full-time, part-time and flexible schedules. Consider the amount of structure and the location. Look at staff qualifications and turnaround, teacher-to-child ratios, curriculum, accreditation, discipline strategies and more. If you have an infant, you'll want a high caregiver-to-child ratio. Parents with several children may need a provider that caters to both babies and older kids.
Step3
Leave your child at home (if possible) for the first visit so you can focus on learning about the program. Bring a list of questions: What is a typical day like? How are behavioral issues dealt with? Are children divided by age? Does your child have to be pottytrained to gain admission?
Step4
Take a good look at the space. It should be safe, well maintained and cheerful, with separate areas for quiet play and for group activities and plenty of toys. Check the outdoor space. Is there room to run around? Are there climbing structures, a sandbox and lots more toys?
Step5
Observe how the director and teachers interact with the kids. Are they approachable, flexible and respectful? How do the children respond to them? Is there a lively atmosphere that doesn't seem out of control? Do the kids and teachers seem happy?
Step6
Use your instincts as a parent and look for a good fit. Some programs have an extended family feeling, while others are more structured and businesslike. Make sure the program and its philosophy are suited to the temperament of your child. A situation may be great for one child but not for another.
Step7
Review details with the director. Find out what the fees are, what they cover, and how they are paid, including fees for late pickups. Confirm the hours of operation and what days throughout the year that school is closed. Ask how teachers are qualified, what the turnover is, and what the minimum requirements are. Inquire about enrichment programs such as art, music and field trips. Find out if and how often parents are required to volunteer. Ask if there is a board of directors or other parents you can contact for more information. Call them; they're usually happy to talk to prospective parents.
Step8
Take your child for a short visit after you've narrowed down your choices. How does he or she respond to the environment?
Step9
Complete the application process, pay the deposit and set up a plan for entry into the program that will be most effective for your child. Some programs have a well-planned transition both for entering and for moving from one age group to another.
Step10
Build an alliance with all of your child-care providers. Stay in constant communication to keep abreast of how your child is doing.
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Step1
Decide when you want to put your child in care. Some parents prefer to keep their kids at home as long as possible and don't enroll them in a program until they are around three years of age. Other parents choose to put their children in a child-care setting much earlier. Still others prefer mixing time at home with time in care. Lifestyle and your child's personality will play a role in this decision--social, active children benefit greatly from the stimulation and activity offered in a structured group environment.
Step2
Ask friends with children, other families and mothers' group members for recommendations. Find out what their experiences have been like. Listen to what excites them and see if your gut tells you the same things would work well for your child. You can also search local parenting Web sites or child-care referral centers, or go to ChildCareAware.org for advice.
Step3
Consider the available options and decide which type of child care best meets your needs.
Home-based care
Step1
Check out family day care in your area. Typically, one licensed adult cares for up to six children in his or her home (the number is determined by state law). These situations tend to offer the most flexibility in scheduling, but you'll need a backup if the care provider becomes ill. Family day care is often a good opportunity to expose your child to another language.
Step2
Give your child the next best thing to Mom or Dad with a nanny. If that's too pricey, sharing a nanny and splitting the cost with one or two other families can make it affordable. Your child will get one-on-one loving care and one or two playmates.
Centers and preschools
Step1
Draw up a short list of potential care providers and contact them. Ask for brochures or visit their Web sites. Find out if there is space available when you need to enroll or if there is a waiting list. Make appointments to visit providers and show up promptly.
Step2
Review the programs offered by various providers in your area. You'll find ones that offer full-time, part-time and flexible schedules. Consider the amount of structure and the location. Look at staff qualifications and turnaround, teacher-to-child ratios, curriculum, accreditation, discipline strategies and more. If you have an infant, you'll want a high caregiver-to-child ratio. Parents with several children may need a provider that caters to both babies and older kids.
Step3
Leave your child at home (if possible) for the first visit so you can focus on learning about the program. Bring a list of questions: What is a typical day like? How are behavioral issues dealt with? Are children divided by age? Does your child have to be pottytrained to gain admission?
Step4
Take a good look at the space. It should be safe, well maintained and cheerful, with separate areas for quiet play and for group activities and plenty of toys. Check the outdoor space. Is there room to run around? Are there climbing structures, a sandbox and lots more toys?
Step5
Observe how the director and teachers interact with the kids. Are they approachable, flexible and respectful? How do the children respond to them? Is there a lively atmosphere that doesn't seem out of control? Do the kids and teachers seem happy?
Step6
Use your instincts as a parent and look for a good fit. Some programs have an extended family feeling, while others are more structured and businesslike. Make sure the program and its philosophy are suited to the temperament of your child. A situation may be great for one child but not for another.
Step7
Review details with the director. Find out what the fees are, what they cover, and how they are paid, including fees for late pickups. Confirm the hours of operation and what days throughout the year that school is closed. Ask how teachers are qualified, what the turnover is, and what the minimum requirements are. Inquire about enrichment programs such as art, music and field trips. Find out if and how often parents are required to volunteer. Ask if there is a board of directors or other parents you can contact for more information. Call them; they're usually happy to talk to prospective parents.
Step8
Take your child for a short visit after you've narrowed down your choices. How does he or she respond to the environment?
Step9
Complete the application process, pay the deposit and set up a plan for entry into the program that will be most effective for your child. Some programs have a well-planned transition both for entering and for moving from one age group to another.
Step10
Build an alliance with all of your child-care providers. Stay in constant communication to keep abreast of how your child is doing.
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Sunday, August 10, 2008
How to Apply for a Loan With Your Same-Sex Partner
Whether it's a car loan, a mortgage or a loan for that new sailboat, applying for a loan with your same-sex partner is not exactly the same as applying for a loan with a husband or wife. Here's how to go about it.
Step1
Know your partner's level of financial responsibility. You don't want your finances intertwined with the finances of someone who can't balance a checkbook.
Step2
Assess the level of commitment between the two of you. The loan's term could be two, three, six or 20 years. Are you confident that you'll still be with the same person throughout the loan term?
Step3
Insist on examining your partner's credit report and make sure it won't keep you from getting the loan or keep you from getting the best rate.
Step4
Discuss the loan with your partner and make sure you are both in agreement about the need for the loan. If you aren't, it could become a source of resentment and even eventually spell the end of your relationship.
Step5
Be up front with the lender about your relationship. If the lender is uncomfortable, consider going elsewhere.
Step6
Ask the lender if the company has experience dealing with same-sex couples. If not, find out why not. If you don't like the answers you get, move on.
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Step1
Know your partner's level of financial responsibility. You don't want your finances intertwined with the finances of someone who can't balance a checkbook.
Step2
Assess the level of commitment between the two of you. The loan's term could be two, three, six or 20 years. Are you confident that you'll still be with the same person throughout the loan term?
Step3
Insist on examining your partner's credit report and make sure it won't keep you from getting the loan or keep you from getting the best rate.
Step4
Discuss the loan with your partner and make sure you are both in agreement about the need for the loan. If you aren't, it could become a source of resentment and even eventually spell the end of your relationship.
Step5
Be up front with the lender about your relationship. If the lender is uncomfortable, consider going elsewhere.
Step6
Ask the lender if the company has experience dealing with same-sex couples. If not, find out why not. If you don't like the answers you get, move on.
http://www.freewebtown.com/howtodothing/relationships-family/2.htm#2
Thursday, August 7, 2008
How to Apply for Welfare
Welfare programs can help individuals and families in times of crisis. The application process is basic, but it requires time and energy.
Step1
Call your local Employment and Human Services office, listed in the government pages of your phone book. (In some places, you will need to look up "Social Services" or just "Human Services.")
Step2
Set an appointment to meet with a case worker and attend an orientation.
Step3
Discuss the various welfare programs with your case worker. Decide which programs you need.
Step4
Ask for emergency assistance if you are homeless.
Step5
Get a list of things you need to gather for the next appointment.
Step6
Apply for any documents or statements you lack.
Step7
Take the appropriate information with you to your appointment. The case worker will let you know if more information is needed.
Step8
Ask for a time frame on the results of your application.
Step9
Call your case worker with questions or concerns.
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Step1
Call your local Employment and Human Services office, listed in the government pages of your phone book. (In some places, you will need to look up "Social Services" or just "Human Services.")
Step2
Set an appointment to meet with a case worker and attend an orientation.
Step3
Discuss the various welfare programs with your case worker. Decide which programs you need.
Step4
Ask for emergency assistance if you are homeless.
Step5
Get a list of things you need to gather for the next appointment.
Step6
Apply for any documents or statements you lack.
Step7
Take the appropriate information with you to your appointment. The case worker will let you know if more information is needed.
Step8
Ask for a time frame on the results of your application.
Step9
Call your case worker with questions or concerns.
http://www.freewebtown.com/howtodothing/relationships-family/2.htm#1
Sunday, August 3, 2008
How to Adopt a Child in a Gay/Lesbian Relationship
Although it won't be easy, it's certainly possible for you and your partner to raise a family. In 1999, estimates of the total number of children nationwide living with at least one gay parent ranged from 6 million to 14 million.
Step1
Contact a local organization for lesbian or gay parents. Its members will be best able to provide relevant information for your particular region, including what is possible and what has been done in the past.
Step2
Consider your options: adoption through a public or private agency, adoption through an intermediary mother and adoption through an international agency. See "How to Legally Adopt a Foreign Child" for this final option.
Step3
Research public and private adoption agencies thoroughly before making your selection. The general procedure involves an interview of the prospective parents by the agency, who then recommends specific couples to the court. Disclosing your sexual preference is unnecessary and might decrease your chances of being selected.
Step4
Alternatively, enlist the aid of an individual intermediary to help you locate a child in states where this is legal. Know that in many states it is illegal to advertise for an adoption.
Step5
Obtain the consent of the child's biological mother and father once you or your intermediary locate a child. Biological parents must sign a consent-to-adopt form, legally forfeiting parental rights. An adoption proceeding is then filed in court. Consider registering simply as two parents to circumvent the traditional mother/father parental roles.
http://www.freewebtown.com/6-30/h/o/howtodothing/relationships-family/1.htm#2
Step1
Contact a local organization for lesbian or gay parents. Its members will be best able to provide relevant information for your particular region, including what is possible and what has been done in the past.
Step2
Consider your options: adoption through a public or private agency, adoption through an intermediary mother and adoption through an international agency. See "How to Legally Adopt a Foreign Child" for this final option.
Step3
Research public and private adoption agencies thoroughly before making your selection. The general procedure involves an interview of the prospective parents by the agency, who then recommends specific couples to the court. Disclosing your sexual preference is unnecessary and might decrease your chances of being selected.
Step4
Alternatively, enlist the aid of an individual intermediary to help you locate a child in states where this is legal. Know that in many states it is illegal to advertise for an adoption.
Step5
Obtain the consent of the child's biological mother and father once you or your intermediary locate a child. Biological parents must sign a consent-to-adopt form, legally forfeiting parental rights. An adoption proceeding is then filed in court. Consider registering simply as two parents to circumvent the traditional mother/father parental roles.
http://www.freewebtown.com/6-30/h/o/howtodothing/relationships-family/1.htm#2
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